LET'S PUSH

HOMOPHILE MARRIAGE

by Randy Lloyd

There are many homophiles who, like me, find the homophile married life so much more preferable, ethically superior, enjoyable, exciting, lessresponsibility-ridden (contrary to a lot of propaganda from the single set), and just plain more fun-well, there's no sense beating around the bush the truth is, many of us married homophiles regard our way of life as much, much superior and as a consequence, mainly stick to ourselves and look down our noses at the trouble-causing, time-wasting, moneyscattering, frantically promiscuous, bar-cruising, tearoom-peeping, street crotch-watching, bathhouse toweltwitching, and moviehouse-nervousknee single set.

Now, before you scream "Snob!" I want to say that there are plenty of the single set who just as strongly and volubly look down on us. And it seems to me that lately in the pages of ONE their viewpoint has been way out of line in preponderance. And, frankly, I'm sick of it.

Not only in ONE is the homophile married set getting the short end. In the recent (March 1963) article in Harpers (and with that big circulation, the article is going to get around) called "New York's MiddleClass Homosexuals," all that is discussed to any extent are the bar-cruising singles. There is a mention that a certain area is famous for "young marrieds," leaving the flippant impression that homophile marriage is only a state, like pimples, that some of the very young go through. (Incidentally, that author never mentions who he thinks the upper-class homosexuals are and my candidates, of course, would be us old and middleaged long-marrieds!)

I realize that much of the lack of publicity on the homophile married set. and the extent of it, is our own fault, or, if you prefer (depending on your point of view), the fault of circumstances. Marriage, it has been

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